Monthly Archives: November 2012

Thanks.

I have a tendency to be a bit ungrateful.

I’m not sure why, exactly. I try to be grateful. I try to notice when people do nice things without my asking, when people think about me. But somehow I get so wrapped up in my own stuff… Sometimes I just don’t notice. Or I forget to say ‘thank you’ until the moment has long since passed.

Saying ‘thank you’ is hard. It’s harder than saying ‘love you’ because the people I love know that I love them (I think).

But  there is no better time than today to make up for that. So here I go:

Thank you for being there when I needed to talk.
Thank you for letting me talk until I cried.
Thank you for making me laugh.
Thank you for listening.
Thank you for the advice, even the advice I didn’t take.
Thank you for being cheerful even when your day has kind of sucked, because it puts my problems in perspective.
Thank you for playing the right music at the right moment (that’s for you iTunes Shuffle)
Thank you for not minding too much when I bug you.
Thank you for reminding me how far I’ve come and how far I still have to go.
Thank you for being there for me longer than anyone else has.
Thank you for bonding with me over silly pop-culture things.
Thank you for that favor. I still owe you Starbucks.
Thank you for remembering my birthday.
Thank you for remembering my name.
Thank you for hugging me when I want to be hugged.
Thank you for hugging me when I actually said not to hug me but when I actually did want a hug.
Thank you for being nice.
Thank you for smiling and telling me to ‘have a nice day.’
Thank you for not saying anything when I say or do something stupid.
Thank you for being my friend even when I’m being incredibly difficult.

Thank you for giving me faith that humanity is not awful.
Thank you for reminding me that people are inherently good.

 

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Don’t Put All Your Eggs in One Basket

I’ve been there. You got an interview for that internship next summer, and suddenly all you can do is dream about the amazing experiences it will bring you. Summer in the city, new friends, glamourous evenings out, and maybe a charming mail boy to sweep you off your feet… Before you know it, you’ve completely imagined exactly what your life is going to be like during this internship, but you haven’t even got it yet. Which means that if you don’t, not only are you losing out on the great resumé building experience, you’re also losing out on the life you pictured for yourself.  It’s bad enough to get rejected when it’s only for a job, but when an entire imagined future is pulled out from under you… well, it sucks.

It’s easy to get carried away daydreaming about things to come, things to look forward to. But it’s not healthy to imagine a future that might never exist. When you do, you often end up putting all your eggs in one basket. Instead of applying for other internships, you focus on what would happen if you got the internship. You spend all your time thinking about that one guy who you think maybe, might like you and close yourself off to the guy you barely noticed who definitely does like you.  You self-sabotage without even realizing it because you’re so set on the perfect outcome, you forget to explore other opportunities.

I’m sure that when you were applying to colleges, you picked at least one safety school. One school you knew you would get in to, even if it wasn’t your first choice. I’m suggesting you do the same for other aspects of your life. Don’t rule out other opportunities just because the ‘perfect’ one is in sight.

Just for perspective… I ended up choosing to attend my ‘safety school’ and I’m happier here than I ever could have imagined.

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