I’ve been there. You got an interview for that internship next summer, and suddenly all you can do is dream about the amazing experiences it will bring you. Summer in the city, new friends, glamourous evenings out, and maybe a charming mail boy to sweep you off your feet… Before you know it, you’ve completely imagined exactly what your life is going to be like during this internship, but you haven’t even got it yet. Which means that if you don’t, not only are you losing out on the great resumé building experience, you’re also losing out on the life you pictured for yourself. It’s bad enough to get rejected when it’s only for a job, but when an entire imagined future is pulled out from under you… well, it sucks.
It’s easy to get carried away daydreaming about things to come, things to look forward to. But it’s not healthy to imagine a future that might never exist. When you do, you often end up putting all your eggs in one basket. Instead of applying for other internships, you focus on what would happen if you got the internship. You spend all your time thinking about that one guy who you think maybe, might like you and close yourself off to the guy you barely noticed who definitely does like you. You self-sabotage without even realizing it because you’re so set on the perfect outcome, you forget to explore other opportunities.
I’m sure that when you were applying to colleges, you picked at least one safety school. One school you knew you would get in to, even if it wasn’t your first choice. I’m suggesting you do the same for other aspects of your life. Don’t rule out other opportunities just because the ‘perfect’ one is in sight.
Just for perspective… I ended up choosing to attend my ‘safety school’ and I’m happier here than I ever could have imagined.